Kodi Zolinga Zamankhwala Zitha Kuchiza Matenda?

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Ng'ombeA Mark Earl bukhu, Ng'ombe, has been a tough read for me. Don't take that the wrong way. It's an amazing book that I found through Hugh McLeod's blog.

I say ‘tough' because it's not a 10,000 foot view. Herd (How to change mass behaviour by harnessing our true nature) is a complex book that thoroughly details a plethora of studies and data to come up with its core premise. As well, Mark Earls is not your average business book author – reading his book makes me feel like I'm reading a book that's totally out of my league (it really is!). If you're an intellectual and appreciate deep, deep thinking and the supporting criteria – this is your book.

If you're faking it like me, it's a great book as well. 🙂 I might mutilate some of the rich content by writing about it here, but what the heck! I'm going for it.

Piritsi Yama mediaOne topic that Mark touches on is depression. Mark mentions two common causes of depression – a parents' relationship with their child and a person's relationships with other people. I can't help but wonder if Social Media isn't the best alternative to Prozac for curing social ills such as depression. Social Media brings a promise of connecting with others that aren't outside your local circle at home, the office, or even in your neighborhood.

Twitter, WordPress, Facebook, Gather, online Games… all of these applications aren't simply ‘Web 2.0', they are means of communicating with one another. No wonder why social applications are so popular. Isn't it much easier to open up to people with the safety of the Internet between us?

Pamsonkhano miyezi ingapo yapitayo, ndikukumbukira mayi wina yemwe adafunsa kuti:

Kodi anthuwa ndi ndani ndipo amakhala bwanji pa intaneti maola onse masana? Don't they have a life?

It's an interesting perspective!, isn't it? I suspect that for many people, this is their life. This is their connection to others, their hobbies, their interests, their friends and their support. In the past, a ‘loner' really had to live alone. But today, a ‘loner' doesn't have to! He/She can find other loners with the same hobbies!

Some might argue that this type of ‘social' network and its accompanying safety net aren't as healthy as a real relationship and human contact. They may be right… but I'm not sure that people are treating this as an alternative. For many people, this is njira zawo zokha zolankhulirana.

In High School a friend of mine, Mark, was an amazing artist. He was a big bear of a guy. He had a full beard in 10th grade and wrote comic books with stories of Vampires and Werewolves. I loved hanging out with Mark but I could always tell that he was uncomfortable around everyone – even me. I don't think he was depressed at all, but he was pretty quiet except for the occasional growl (I growled back).

I can honestly imagine Mark being a famous eclectic artist, now, or perhaps living in the wilderness by himself today. I can't help but wonder, though. Had Mark had a blog and an outlet to publish his incredible tales, I think he would have connected with thousands of others with the same interests. He would have had a social network – a network of friends and fans that encouraged and appreciated him.

I'm in no way inferring that we bloggers are escaping depression or loneliness through our writing. We do; however, harness much respect from our readers. I'm no different. If I see someone ganging up on another blogger who is a friend of mine, I'll jump in and defend him. If I hear of a blogger that's taken ill, I genuinely pray for him and his family. And when a blogger stops blogging, I really do miss hearing from them.

Working a 50 to 60 our week and being a single father, I don't have much of “Moyo” (monga tafotokozera mayi yemwe ndidamutchula) kunja kwa blog yanga ndi ntchito yanga. Chodabwitsa, komabe, mai moyo online is incredibly supportive, happy and promising. I'm a truly happy (non-medicated but overweight) guy. I don't believe that I'm trying to replace one with another. I think both are just as important and rewarding. In fact, I believe that my ‘online' life has pushed me into being a better communicator in my ‘real' life. It's therapeutic for me to write and it feels great when I get feedback on my writing (even if it's negative).

The truth is, if I didn't have the support network that I have with you folks… I probably ndikanathera be unhappy and could slip into depression. I'd probably be playing video games by night and making my colleagues miserable during the day.

I'd much rather take my Web 2.0 Pills every day.

9 Comments

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    Choyamba sindikukhulupirira kuti kupezeka pa Web 2.0 monga Twitter, mabulogu ndi zina zotero zili pafupi ndi chithandizo cha zinthu monga kukhumudwa ndipo sindimagwirizana ndi malingaliro a Mark pazomwe zimayambitsa kukhumudwa.

    Izi zanenedwa komabe ndikukhulupirira kuti mwanjira zina kulumikizana kwathu kudzera pa intaneti kumathandiza munthu kudzidalira, kukhala ndi moyo wabwino ndipo nthawi zina kumathandiza munthu munthawi yovuta kwambiri pamoyo wake. Ndiyenera kudziwa kuti ngakhale sindikuika mabulogu pamlingo wofanana ndi Twtitter ndi zina zotero (ndidzakhala ndikuchita china chake masiku ano posachedwa).

    Mwachitsanzo ngati gawo la WinExtra ndimakhalanso ndi njira ya IRC yomwe siyimayitanidwe (makamaka ngati ndikudziwa kuti anthu amachita IRC poyamba) ndipo m'modzi mwa anzanga apamtima chaka chatha adazindikira kuti akuyenera kukhala ndi moyo wabwino kusintha kuti mubwerere kuledzera. Anali wopambana - komanso wopambana momwe angathere ndi chizolowezi - koma anandiuza tsiku lina kuti ngati sizinali za njira ya IRC komanso anthu kumeneko sanadziwe ngati akadatha nthawi yamdima kwambiri.

    Mulimonsemo zomwe zidangochitika chimodzi mwazomwe zakhala zikuchitika kwa nthawi yayitali pamabwalo a WinExtra ndi njira ya IRC idasiya kutumizira kapena kuwonetsa pawayilesi. Momwemonso mamembala awiri ku US adada nkhawa kwambiri ndikuyamba kuyesa kumutsata kuti adziwe kuti ali bwino. Lero lero adawonekera mwadzidzidzi ndipo zinali ngati mnzake yemwe adatayika kale akubwerera kunyumba - kwa iye ndi ife.

    Awa ndianthu amderali ndipo ngakhale sanayende bwino pawebusayiti ya pawebusayiti ya 2.0 ndigwiritsa ntchito Facebook kapena Twitter nthawi iliyonse. Kuphatikiza apo ndikuganiza kuti zikuwonetsa kuti ngati gulu la pa intaneti limakhala ndi moyo wautali komanso kuzama kwa abwenzi (omwe mukamvetsetsa kuti mabwalo athu ang'onoang'ono omwe angakhalepo kwazaka zisanu ndi chimodzi kuphatikiza) zimapangitsa gawo la moyo wamunthu kukhala bwinoko ndipo zimakupatsani kumverera kuti muli oyanjana - zomwe ndi zomwe tonsefe monga anthu timafuna pamoyo wathu.

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    Hi Steven,

    Ndinachenjeza kuti mwina ndadula mawu a Mark… zikuwoneka ngati ndidachita! Maliko akutchula zolemba zokhudzana ndi kukhumudwa ndipo sanena kuti izi ndizomwe zimayambitsa kukhumudwa - awa ndi mabanja omwe atchulidwa. Lingaliro la Social Media ndipo ndi mwayi wothandizira kukhumudwa si a Mark, ndiomwe ndimadandaula.

    Nkhani yochititsa chidwi yokhudza mdera lanu ndipo ndikugwirizana nanu - kukhala ndichinthu chomwe aliyense amafunika kukhala wathanzi. Ndikuganiza kuti Social Media imatisiya kuti tikhale 'am'magulu' omwe sitikadapezekapo.

    Zikomo chifukwa cha ndemanga yapadera!
    Doug

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    Positi yabwino, Doug! Ndimaona kuti malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi njira yolumikizirana ndi zikhalidwe ndi miyoyo ya anthu ambiri omwe ndimawawona ngati abwenzi, ena mwa iwo ngakhale abwenzi apamtima, ndipo zimakhudza miyoyo ina yomwe sindingakhale nayo nthawi yokwanira patsiku kuti ndichite . Ndikawona mnzanga akusowa, ndimatha kulumikizana mwachangu kuti ndiwone zomwe ndingachite kuti ndithandizire. Ndakhalanso ndi abwenzi (nawonso akuphatikizidwa!) Kudzera pakulankhulana kwamagetsi komwe mwina sindikanawadziwa, zomwe zikadasandukanso mabwenzi apamtunda.

    PS Ndidasowa zolemba zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku pomwe mudali otanganidwa ndi projekiti yanu komanso kusintha. Ndine wokondwa kuwona zolemba zanu posachedwa!

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      Zikomo Julie! Ndikuyesera kuti ndibwerere bwino koma ndikuvutika. Ndimagwira ntchito maola ambiri ndipo ndawonjezerapo masewera olimbitsa thupi (ingoganizirani!) Kusakaniza. Sindinadziwe chilinganizo choyenera panobe - Ndine wokongola kwambiri komanso wotopa.

      Ndikafika kumeneko!

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    Ndikuvomerezana kwathunthu ndi lingaliro loti kugwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndichinthu chabwino kuchiritsira. Za ine, ndapeza kuti ndi zabwino komanso zimamasula kwa ine kuti ndilembe zakukhosi kwanga. Ngakhale palibe amene amawawerenga. Pali mphamvu pakulemba. Ndimakondanso masamba ngati Facebook ndi MySpace. Amalola anthu kulumikizana kuposa momwe akanakhalira akanakhala kuti alibe kulumikizana kumeneko. Zikomo chifukwa cholemba zambiri zamasamba ochezera. Ndikukhulupirira kuti anthu ochulukirachulukira apeza zabwino mmenemo.

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      Ndife nyama zocheza, sichoncho Jason? Ngati palibe njira yoti tithandizire kucheza, ndili ndi chidaliro kuti izi zitha kudzetsa mavuto ambiri ndipo zitha kulowa munkhani zina.

      Monga inu, ndimapezadi zolemba ngati valavu yotulutsa nkhawa. Komanso, wina akandiyamika kapena kutumiza zomwe ndalemba - zimachita bwino kudzidalira!

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    Ndikumva kuti kupweteka kwa kukhumudwa kumatha kuchepetsedwa chifukwa chochita zapa media media. Onani maphunziro ochokera kwa anthu omwe amatenga nawo gawo mu Second Life mwachitsanzo. Amatha kupanga ma avatat potengera zomwe akufuna komanso kulumikizana ndi anthu pamanambala omwe mwina sanakhalepo kale. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chimodzi chokha.

    Inemwini ndidali mboni momwe zoulutsira mawu zitha kuthandiza. Ndimayang'anira zokambirana zamagulu a MySpace kuti ndione momwe anthu omwe akuvutikira, kuda nkhawa, kupuma mozungulira, OCD, ndi ena. Ndikuwona zokambiranazo zikuchitika ndidayang'ana ngati munthu wina akukambirana zodzivulaza. Anthu ammudzimo adalumphira mkati ndikumuthandiza kutuluka. Zinali ngati gulu la MySpace limamuthandiza.

    Ndikuganiza ndi komwe media media ikupita tidzawona ntchito zambiri zikupezeka zoperekedwa kuzinthu zina. Odwala Monga Ine (kasitomala wanga wakale yemwe ndimamufufuza panthawiyo) akubweretsa anthu omwe ali ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana pamodzi kuti athe kugawana zomwe akumana nazo ndikulumikizana. Ndi chida chodabwitsa ndipo zikungokuwonetsani momwe malo ochezera a pa Intaneti alili ndi mphamvu yosungira anthu pansi. Chabwino ndikuchezera ngati PLM kumangolola anthu omwe ali ndi vuto kulowa nawo mgululi. Izi zimawonjezera kuchuluka kwa omwe akutenga nawo mbali chifukwa akudziwa kuti sali okha.

    Zikomo chifukwa cha positi iyi yabwino Doug!

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    Ndikuganiza kuti zoulutsira mawu zitha kuthandiza anthu kuthana ndi kukhumudwa, bwanji?

    Malingaliro anga ndikuti aliyense wa ife, ndi zonse zapadziko lapansi zonse ndizolumikizidwa. Tonsefe tinachokera ku gwero limodzi lamphamvu, ndipo kukhumudwa ndi chifukwa chakumverera kuti tapatukana ndi gwero ili.

    Inde ndikudziwa kuti zonsezi zikuwoneka ngati zatsopano. Koma ndi lingaliro losavuta, ndipo ndizomveka kwa ine.

    Sindikuganiza kuti zoulutsira mawu ndi mankhwala, koma zimabweretsa anthu pamodzi, ndipo ndi zomwe tonsefe timakhumba.

    Mwana wanga wamkazi wopeza amakhala nthawi yambiri pa intaneti pamalo otchedwa nexopia. Wakumanapo ndi abwenzi ambiri, akumaloko komanso ochokera m'malo ena ochezera a pa Intaneti. Malo ochezera a pawebusayiti amatithandiza kukumana ndi anthu omwe ali ndi zokonda zomwezi, ndipo ndi chida chothandizira kuti tizilumikizana ndi anzathu apano, komanso anzathu akale.

    Ndakhala ndikuwerenga "The Power of Now" wolemba Eckhart Tolle. Bukuli limafotokoza mwatsatanetsatane chifukwa chomwe timamvera kukhumudwa, kuda nkhawa ndi zina zambiri.

    Amapereka yankho kuti "azikhala pano" ngati chithandizo. Ndikuvomereza, ndikulimbikitsanso bukuli kwa aliyense amene ali ndi chidwi ndi upangiri wazachiphamaso wachimwemwe.

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